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Stop focusing on just getting phone numbers. E-mail addresses are far better. If chinese american singles are single,
walk up to her and get their number. I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that. You see
china brides have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men
call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and
in my personal experience, dating chinese woman act different on the phone than she does in person. When you call a chinese
girls for the first time, she will often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It is almost like she is
a different person than the one you met. Getting an email address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses
later on. It is almost as if dating penpals in china appreciate it that you have taken the time to think about what you are
going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know. The other benefit of email
is that it can be written and answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered
anytime in the chinese dating culture. I have found that emails are answered far more often than voicemail messages.
After I have talked to a china wife for a few minutes, I will often say something like it was nice meeting you. I am going
to get back to my friends. They usually do not know what to do, as they are used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time,
they say It was nice meeting you too. Then, just as I am turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and
say Do you have email asking her if she has email, not if she will give it to you. If she says yes, I take out a pen and paper
and say Great, write it down for me and I have her write it down. This is great, as I just treat the yes that they give me
as a yes to get it from them as well. And they have almost all gone along with it so far. Then while the girl is
writing, tell her to write her phone number. When you ask for email, it is very low risk for a woman, so she will
think fine, I will do that. Most chinese matchmaking singles will give out an email address without thinking about it,
because they know that they can choose later to just not answer. The magic of asking them to write their phone number down
while they are in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior. She is already mentally
said ok, I will give you my email address and she iss in the middle of writing it down. When you say just write your
number down there too it is only natural to just write it.
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